There is so much commotion in everyday life: work, social media, family, friends, emails – and at the end of each day, most of us only find silence in the few moments before sleep. And even that can become convoluted with thoughts of what your day was like or what tomorrow will be.
When do you truly connect with yourself?
I used to love my morning commute. Traffic aside, it was the only time I had, completely alone, to connect with my thoughts without any outside noise. I would leave early enough to get my coffee and then find myself at peace before integrating with the world (at that time, my world was the office).
By the time I got home, after a day of corporate duties, all I wanted to do was disconnect from the world, but I would find myself online, on the phone and lost in television. I didn’t know how to disconnect, which caused me to build up a bit of anxiety and eventually led to insomnia.
It was a vicious cycle.
I wanted nothing more than to feel peacefulness, but I thought it was something external that I had to find, and the only peace I knew of was in my car. It wasn’t enough. The sliver of me-time was miniscule in comparison to how I was living my life.
When I began practicing Reiki and meditation, I learned how to find peace within myself, no matter where I was. And that was the game-changer, realizing that peace had to be internalized. The issue wasn’t so much the world around me, but how I was interacting and managing the world within.
I thought I hit the jackpot! I felt more calm in my being, I began viewing life differently and the anxiety became a dull whisper that I learned to mute, instantly.
I finally began to connect with myself, and it changed my life.
After a few years of Reiki and meditation, I learned another way of connecting with myself, exploring the inner-layers of how I was perceiving life. In yoga-teacher training, we had to do an entire day of silence. Another game-changer.
The day of silence meant disconnection from technology: no phone, computer, television or radio. It also meant no speaking, out loud; an entire day of observation, without typical distractions. I enjoyed it so much that I made it a monthly practice.
During my first day of silence, I noticed how much we do not engage with each other or acknowledge what is actually happening around us. I saw people sitting together, on their phones, instead of conversing with each other. I even had a cashier ask how my day was, and she proceeded to ramble on, never realizing that I said absolutely nothing in response (I was in silence). It was eye-opening.
The beauty of the day was that my other senses seemed to amplify in my silence. I heard everything! I noticed the sounds in nature, the sounds of people, the sounds of life. I also focused on what my surroundings were, seeing things that I pass by everyday, but this time I truly noticed what I saw. I was observing it all, taking it all in…breathing in life, in silence.
When I was in my home, the silence was loud. At first I thought it was going to be difficult without being able to grab the phone or hop on the internet. What would I do without the television or music? I decided to make bracelets.
I tapped into my creativity, in a very meditative state. I love to do these types of things, but I wasn’t making time in my life to do them. In silence, there was nothing to do except what I hadn’t made time for, previously. In this space, I connected with what I was designing and I could actually connect with my thoughts without feeling bombarded. I was mindful of my presence, my creation, my breath and my being. I was just being.
It has been a few months since I’ve done this practice and woke up feeling it’s time. I am going into silence this Sunday. Would you like to join me? Even if you cannot do it for a full 24 hours, make a commitment to what you feel comfortable with trying. Imagine what you will see, feel, sense and hear without the racket of daily disturbances.
If you decide to give it a try, please share your experiences, below, after completion.
Day of Silence:
I will see you on the other side of silence. I hope you enjoy the journey! Remember to share your experiences below.
Yew Chi Blogger
Yolanda is a San Diego Reiki-Master Teacher and Author. She began this blog because she believes we must show gratitude by sharing our blessings. Through these writings, she passes on the gifts from her journey! It takes a village, and we are of the same tribe.
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