Love is a beautiful vibration...and today is the ultimate day of exchange, right? Well, yes, for some, today is the day of chocolates, stuffed animals and all things red!
Honestly, I tend to be quite cynical about this day of love, as I firmly believe that love should be expressed everyday! However, I can appreciate the loving energies that encourage hopeful and hopeless romantics. In fact, this day even encourages the less romantic types to explore their heart-shaped, alter-egos.
For many, today is a reminder of love lost. And even if there was no “love lost”, some are reminded of their very single existence. Well, I prefer to think of it as seemingly single, as I have personally enjoyed many Valentine’s Days with my friends, sans lovers.
Regardless of how you’re celebrating today, or not, this focus on LOVE can be a time of reflection for healing and growth. With that said, let’s journey inward and investigate…
How has your personal love-history repeated itself? If you tend to learn from mistakes, and are NOT a glutton for punishment, you probably haven’t dated the same type of “mistake” over and over. You learned and moved forward…great! Well, there are some who date the same “mistake”, with a different vessel, over and over. We all learn in different ways. No judgment. But looking at how we attract the same “lessons”, again and again, can be telling. This shows how we are NOT caring for ourselves. And once we have identified the lesson, we can then ask why. Why wouldn’t we go for what we deserve…love that is loving.
To identify your love patterns, be still and think back to past relationships. Be very honest with yourself. How would you finish these sentences:
I tend to date men/women that_____________________.
In relationships, I struggle with_____________________.
My relationships have ended because_________________________.
The common complaint from my partners has been_________________.
My common complaint about partners has been_______________________.
In love, I have been great at_______________________.
In love, my partners have been great_______________________.
Of course, many of us have experienced beautiful, loving, supportive relationships. But, as perfect as they may seem, those relationships often have expiration dates, too. On the other hand, some are currently in loving relationships, which is fantastic! The objective today is to acknowledge our patterns, make corrections and ultimately move forward – more loving than before.
Is it time to redirect your journey? This does not have to be a drastic move, like redirecting from a relationship; it could mean redirecting your actions. Perhaps the changes occur in your behavioral patterns in love. Are you too tough of a cookie, on the verge of crumbling? Or are you too soft, falling apart at the touch? Again, our history reveals why we are where we are today. Connect with yourself for the answers.
It’s really this simple; the more loving we become, the better lovers we become. And of course, the love has to start with self. The key is loving in the highest and best ways for ourselves.
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For today, and all days that follow, I wish you love! Love of self, and love of all living things!
Until next time…
Peace and Blessings!
Yew Chi Blogger
Yolanda is a San Diego Reiki-Master Teacher and Author. She began this blog because she believes we must show gratitude by sharing our blessings. Through these writings, she passes on the gifts from her journey! It takes a village, and we are of the same tribe.
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