“Energies are ours, to accept and release…” – Yolanda
Welcome to Freedom Friday! This week we discussed satisfaction, finding it within and the trappings of vanity. Today we are going to discuss how to release energies created in dissatisfaction by reshaping expectations.
A common source of dissatisfaction stems from expectations that were not met. With this in mind, we are going to explore expectations that we create without supportive foundations. These are usually expectations that we set for others, when in actuality, our expectations should be focused on and set for self.
How many times have you expected something to be done in a particular way by someone else, only to be disappointed by his or her choice to go another route? The real problem isn’t their choice, as we are all entitled to our own; the issue is when we pretend to be in the passenger seat while attempting to be the driver. We cannot expect to navigate when the wheel is not in our hands. Even more, if we want to go in a specified direction, we should take the wheel to begin with.
There are two issues rooted here: setting expectations without voicing them, or voicing our expectations but becoming dissatisfied when people choose another path. When we expect others to do, act, or respond as we would, we are already lying in bed with disappointment. The key is to acknowledge and respect the free will that each of us have. We should only expect that others would respond and make decisions in their own way. On the other hand, when we voice our expectations and land in upset because someone is making their own choice, we are clearly being represented by our egos. Again, free will is a gift that each of us has. We should honor our own, as well as that of others.
Today, let’s release the energies of dissatisfaction by choosing to reshape an expectation that we are putting on someone else. Here are a few things to consider:
· Are you expecting your partner to read your mind? Reshape this expectation by voicing your needs/wants. Most people are not in the business of mind reading.
· Did you have an idea, only to find yourself disappointed when a friend decides to do something else? Reshape this by accepting that your friend is entitled to his or her own idea. It’s not personal.
Be mindful of the expectations you’re setting, and acknowledge who you are setting the expectations for. Remember, when we set them for others, we are often left dissatisfied with the results. When we set expectations for ourselves, we become the navigator.
Until next time…
Peace and Blessings!
Yew Chi Blogger
Yolanda is a San Diego Reiki-Master Teacher and Author. She began this blog because she believes we must show gratitude by sharing our blessings. Through these writings, she passes on the gifts from her journey! It takes a village, and we are of the same tribe.
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